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Jumping to Conclusions

 

How Wrong We Can Be!

Do you jump to conclusions?

I was driving through the wonderful West Country of England the other day and, just after I had overtaken a bunch of cars around a sweeping climbing bend, (you know how good that feels if you are a driver) I ended up behind several lorries.

My first thought was that it would be really good if they could be turning left at the next junction as I was going straight on. They dutifully did so, which was very nice of them, leaving the road clear except for…

What next…

Well, when I first saw what came next, my reaction was, my goodness, he’s driving very close to that car in front of him!!!! (Actually I think it was a bit stronger than that.)

This was because, from where I was sitting, it looked like the driver of what was a sporty car with a big spoiler on the back, was driving about six feet behind the car in front of it.

The car stayed that close for the next series of flowing corners, I thought, getting ready to overtake on the next available straight bit of road.

Nutter!

That straight arrived and, as I had hung back a bit in case the nutter in the car got something wrong and I had to stop quickly, I got ready to follow the driver past the slightly slower car in front of it. I knew I would be able to as I know the road and there would be room if there was nothing coming the other way.

Something strange?

Nothing happened, the car stayed six feet behind the car in front of it. I couldn’t believe it, I thought I was seeing things! Then I thought that the driver was making a point and just being silly

I waited a sensible amount of time then made my move on that straight bit of road…

Guess what I saw as I overtook the two cars?

That second car was being towed by the first one!!!!

How can this help us?

Well, if we have jumped to a conclusion about something or somebody, whether recently or it could be years ago, maybe now is the time to mend old wounds and remember that the past has no hold over us and we should only look back on events in the past in terms of learning from them. After all, ‘What is, is’. There is only now.

If we feel someone has wronged us it is probably only us who have even remembered it, let alone are feeling negative about it.

I know we have all held on to things from the past when we didn’t need to. In a strange way I almost had the reverse negative experience. I once dropped my youngest off at nursery school and I had said goodbye in the normal way and I always used to wave at him as I walked past the window on the way off the premises.

This time my mobile rang as I walked around the corner and I got engrossed in the call, guess what, I didn’t wave.

I didn’t think any more about it until I went to pick him up and the person looking after him said he had watched me walk away vainly waiting for me to wave to him. He was quite I upset she said. I felt awful. I didn’t want to bring it up again then, as I didn’t want to bring all those negative emotions to the surface again and upset him.

The midsts of time...

The midsts of time…

A while later he and I were talking about something else related to this kind of thing and I mentioned the event described above. Do you know what, he didn’t even remember it. I have written before about learning from those younger than ourselves and here it is again. It happened, its relevance was slight in the grand scheme of things and he moved on. A great example of letting go and remembering that ‘What is, is’.

Let go of the past and start enjoying every minute of this journey (of life).

If for any reason you don’t know that you can let go of your past then I would love to help if you would like me to. Get in touch!

Best wishes

Alastair

 

 

 

 

 

 

Learn from Your Children

That time has come!

No one has a monopoly on good ideas

Recently I had one of those experiences where one of your children, if you have been blessed with any, or it could just be someone younger than you, if you haven’t,  shows you that you may not have done something as well as you could have.

This is not a negative thing, just one of those things that, when you look back, you can see that there was something else you could have done at the time that would have moved the situation forward more than you managed to, thanks Joe. And I mean that from the bottom of my heart!

Remember that to move forward on our journeys we need to make mistakes. The most important thing we must all remember though is that when making mistakes we are learning. What ever happens is always for the best anyway.

If we have a situation we need to deal with or a decision to make, remember that if we are wrong then we have learnt something and we win, if we were right then we win big, in either case we win.

You cannot ‘fail’ in life. You will get to the end, that is for certain. The question is, will you make the most of it? You will have to live every day until you get to the end, enjoy it. If you are not in a good place right now, decide that you have changed and that you now are, everything else WILL follow. If you don’t believe me take a look at this and let me know what you think! Don’t judge remember, just observe, that is one of the most important things in life to remember. Judgement is weakness, observation is power.

What you will see is an introduction to something that really helped me on my journey, take a look, you never know, maybe you were meant to read this and now is the time to act.

My thoughts and best wishes go with you.

Alastair