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Hi,

If you know me you may know that I ‘stumbled’ upon something truly special a year or so ago.

Every 10 – 20 years, there comes a person or product out-of-the-blue that revolutionises an area of thinking. Challenges beliefs. Breaks the rules. And as a result … ends up changing all our lives for the better!

In this case the person’s name is Andy Shaw

A Bug Free Mind

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First of all these books are ‘unlike’ any personal development book or course you’ve ever read before.

It is said that: A Bug Free Mind books contain “the secret to progress” And that “they are the LAST self help books a personal development student will ever buy”.

Apparently there are people who’ve read this book over 20 times, because they claim with each reading their understanding of “the way” improves and their success becomes more certain. I am on my 6th read at the moment and I can confirm that that statement is totally correct!

What’s more in a recently published survey it turns out that 92% of all A Bug Free Mind readers claim that The Bug Free Mind Process is delivering for them (even when no other personal development book ever has before.)

If You Are Interested In Reading / Buying These Books then you can get some free training in the way the system works by clicking below before you go any further.

No Prior Experience Is Necessary:

Everything in this program, including Andy Shaw’s world-famous “No Mind Exercise”, The ABC Guide To Living A Legendary Life, and latest video ‘How To Tap The Magical Power of Your Subconscious – On Demand! And many other fascinating insights are all designed to benefit anyone from any level.

The Reason Why Andy Is Releasing This FREE Training?

Is quite simply so “non members” like you, may finally have an opportunity to experience how much easier… how much more fulfilling… how much more successful and enjoyable life can be when you decide to go ‘bug free’ … and to do it without having to spend a penny!

Best wishes

Alastair

P.S. If you don’t do this now how will you ever know just how much you can change your life?


Unconcious People

Unconscious – Not Present

Not as, ‘in a coma’!

I mentioned this on the Home page of this blog.

(Post publishing note: this is a very long post, you may need to persevere and read it a few times to get it, don’t let your ego stop you!)

If you find yourself in a situation where someone is behaving strangely or unreasonably (in your opinion) towards things you are saying or doing, remember that they may not be in control of how they appear to be choosing to react. In fact it might be worse than that.

Are they conscious?

If they are ‘unconscious’ then it is not actually them that is responding, but their ego. In any event you don’t have to be offended or hurt by their comments or behaviour, as it is not the person themselves that are doing what they are doing, but their ego.

Your job then, if there be such a thing, is to resist the temptation to react and to in fact shine the light by not reacting. Serenity comes when you exchange expectation for acceptance. (Can’t remember who said that, so if you know please comment below and I will attribute it correctly.)

Who can you change?

Remember, there is only one person you can change, yourself, you cannot change anyone else. This is not a holier than thou statement, it is just a fact that it is very useful to remember. We all forget it from time to time and, however much we would like someone to change, especially as we may believe it would be in their best interest to do so, we cannot make them. In fact we shouldn’t even try. Trying may just make matters worse and end up causing more pain than just leaving someone to figure something out on their own. After all, that is what they are going to have to do anyway.

Set your intention on serenity and this will help enable you to accept what is and to know that ‘What is, is’, that is the power of acceptance. Once you do that the ego driven behaviour of others can no longer touch you.

Don’t be tempted to answer back or give them the impression you are above them, as none of us is above any other, we are simply ourselves living our own truths. If the other person cannot accept that, at this point in their journey, and you don’t want to get involved in that kind of discussion right now, then don’t say anything at all. If they carry on pushing you could then tell them kindly that you don’t have anything to add to the conversation at this time and walk away.

Keep cool!

Above all keep cool. Nothing can be gained from trying to score points. Looking deeper, and depending on what your truth is, you may agree that in fact we are all connected anyway and so in showing love towards the person in question, even covertly if you feel it right to do so, will be enough to start the healing process.

Fact

The most important thing to remember is that you and you alone are responsible for how you feel about anything. If you choose to be happy about a situation, you can be. Again, that isn’t a holier than thou statement, it is just a fact.

That doesn’t mean that we don’t feel sad about things when sad things happen, it is  the case however, that when an event occurs that makes us sad or unhappy, we have the choice of how we view that event. If, and only if, we are able to take control of our minds and not let our ego dictate our reaction, can we make the decision to choose how we wish to feel, and, if we choose to, choose to be happy.

Of course, someone may be in such a place right now (normally where there ego is still in control) that means they cannot see, or at least they currently cannot see, that they even have that choice. It may even be that their conscious mind knows that they have the choice but their ego is preventing them making the connection.

Feeling under attack?

So, if you feel that you are being attacked verbally or emotionally, take a deep breath and say to yourself, ‘I choose to be happy now’. Those six words are very powerful. Your ego will probably be telling you right now that it is not as simple at that. Of course that is what it is saying, it has a vested interest in making you think that. It wants to keep control and if it thinks you are about to start taking away its control that is exactly what it is going to make you think.

Taking back control

There are ways to take back control of your mind much more quickly than most people would have you believe. I can say this from personal experience.

Don’t get me wrong…

I am not saying I am perfect or different from you, please don’t think that, for I am not. I am just like you. But one thing I may be able to do that you may not, is to choose to calm my mind and reset my emotions in a way that allows me to choose to be happy in a situation, or after a situation has arisen, where you may not, yet.

Still getting it wrong

I can’t always do this quickly enough to stop those ego driven reflex action comments leaving my mouth that manage to escape before I get control though. These comments may then be received by others in a way that allows their ego to make them choose to be something other than happy. (Let us not forget that those comments are coming from the ego of the other person and are therefore not to be taken as coming from the true person within. Because, let’s face it, if we are truly present and our intention is always from the highest thought, that thought of love and of helping people, then why would we say anything to cause offence or unhappiness in or to another human being, or any other being come to that?)

Look deeper

If you look to your feelings, and can get past any egoic reaction, you will know in your heart that you would only wish the best for others. If it is true for you then it is true for them. The only thing that gets in the way is our egos. Control your ego and you are on the path to being a better human being. For isn’t it better to be loving and caring towards others?

Wow, that went to places I didn’t expect it to!!!! Thank you to those who are helping me to grow and enabling me to share these thoughts with you in this way.

What are your experiences of this kind of thing?

Whether you agree or disagree I would love to hear from you. Comment below if you would like to join the conversation (write ‘private’ in the top of the comment if you would rather it was not published here and then include an email address if you would like me to get back to you).

If you would like to learn more about how you can take back control and start to bring abut change in your life much more quickly than you may think possible, then take a look at this.

Best wishes

Alastair

 

Jumping to Conclusions

 

How Wrong We Can Be!

Do you jump to conclusions?

I was driving through the wonderful West Country of England the other day and, just after I had overtaken a bunch of cars around a sweeping climbing bend, (you know how good that feels if you are a driver) I ended up behind several lorries.

My first thought was that it would be really good if they could be turning left at the next junction as I was going straight on. They dutifully did so, which was very nice of them, leaving the road clear except for…

What next…

Well, when I first saw what came next, my reaction was, my goodness, he’s driving very close to that car in front of him!!!! (Actually I think it was a bit stronger than that.)

This was because, from where I was sitting, it looked like the driver of what was a sporty car with a big spoiler on the back, was driving about six feet behind the car in front of it.

The car stayed that close for the next series of flowing corners, I thought, getting ready to overtake on the next available straight bit of road.

Nutter!

That straight arrived and, as I had hung back a bit in case the nutter in the car got something wrong and I had to stop quickly, I got ready to follow the driver past the slightly slower car in front of it. I knew I would be able to as I know the road and there would be room if there was nothing coming the other way.

Something strange?

Nothing happened, the car stayed six feet behind the car in front of it. I couldn’t believe it, I thought I was seeing things! Then I thought that the driver was making a point and just being silly

I waited a sensible amount of time then made my move on that straight bit of road…

Guess what I saw as I overtook the two cars?

That second car was being towed by the first one!!!!

How can this help us?

Well, if we have jumped to a conclusion about something or somebody, whether recently or it could be years ago, maybe now is the time to mend old wounds and remember that the past has no hold over us and we should only look back on events in the past in terms of learning from them. After all, ‘What is, is’. There is only now.

If we feel someone has wronged us it is probably only us who have even remembered it, let alone are feeling negative about it.

I know we have all held on to things from the past when we didn’t need to. In a strange way I almost had the reverse negative experience. I once dropped my youngest off at nursery school and I had said goodbye in the normal way and I always used to wave at him as I walked past the window on the way off the premises.

This time my mobile rang as I walked around the corner and I got engrossed in the call, guess what, I didn’t wave.

I didn’t think any more about it until I went to pick him up and the person looking after him said he had watched me walk away vainly waiting for me to wave to him. He was quite I upset she said. I felt awful. I didn’t want to bring it up again then, as I didn’t want to bring all those negative emotions to the surface again and upset him.

The midsts of time...

The midsts of time…

A while later he and I were talking about something else related to this kind of thing and I mentioned the event described above. Do you know what, he didn’t even remember it. I have written before about learning from those younger than ourselves and here it is again. It happened, its relevance was slight in the grand scheme of things and he moved on. A great example of letting go and remembering that ‘What is, is’.

Let go of the past and start enjoying every minute of this journey (of life).

If for any reason you don’t know that you can let go of your past then I would love to help if you would like me to. Get in touch!

Best wishes

Alastair

 

 

 

 

 

 

Learn from Your Children

That time has come!

No one has a monopoly on good ideas

Recently I had one of those experiences where one of your children, if you have been blessed with any, or it could just be someone younger than you, if you haven’t,  shows you that you may not have done something as well as you could have.

This is not a negative thing, just one of those things that, when you look back, you can see that there was something else you could have done at the time that would have moved the situation forward more than you managed to, thanks Joe. And I mean that from the bottom of my heart!

Remember that to move forward on our journeys we need to make mistakes. The most important thing we must all remember though is that when making mistakes we are learning. What ever happens is always for the best anyway.

If we have a situation we need to deal with or a decision to make, remember that if we are wrong then we have learnt something and we win, if we were right then we win big, in either case we win.

You cannot ‘fail’ in life. You will get to the end, that is for certain. The question is, will you make the most of it? You will have to live every day until you get to the end, enjoy it. If you are not in a good place right now, decide that you have changed and that you now are, everything else WILL follow. If you don’t believe me take a look at this and let me know what you think! Don’t judge remember, just observe, that is one of the most important things in life to remember. Judgement is weakness, observation is power.

What you will see is an introduction to something that really helped me on my journey, take a look, you never know, maybe you were meant to read this and now is the time to act.

My thoughts and best wishes go with you.

Alastair

 

Time for a Baggage Clear Out?

Who Needs Baggage?

Where to Start… My take on Chapter 4 of ABFM, Lightening the Load

Worry Free

Choose to be happy now, it really is your choice.

Below are some of my thoughts on the process of getting to be Bug Free! I urge you to visit A Bug Free Mind and read the first five chapters free. It really will change your life, it did for me!

I can only touch the surface here, follow the books and you will really know what it is to be truly happy and worry free.

You probably don’t ‘believe’ it is possible to be worry free. After all, that’s not possible is it? Well, you really can choose to be worry free. I have, is it time that you did too? It is the greatest gift I have ever been given!

Why Worry?

In order to clear out the baggage you first need to get control of your mind. If you don’t then the junk just keeps coming back.

What does that mean? It means that if you are sitting in a quiet room and your mind is full of thoughts and you can’t control them, you are not in control.

I wrote something on this here. Once you get control then it’s time to get rid of some of that baggage, after all, why would you want to be carrying it around?

There are things in life that are very traumatic and they can be very destructive if they are not dealt with. There are things that you probably look back on and wish they hadn’t happened. And what of the future, do you worry about that? Most people do it has to be said.

Can you change the past?

If something happened in the past there is nothing you can do about it, NOTHING. It happened, it just is. As it ‘just is’ what is the point in worrying about it now? What possible benefit can there be? There is just NOW.

Let the sun set on your past... it is not relevant to today except as a lesson that has been learnt.

Let the sun set on your past… it is not relevant to today except as a lesson that has been learnt.

So are you ready to take back control? How did you end up reading this? Is the time right for you to put some stuff behind you and move on.

If you are in that place right now I would love you to know that we are all rooting for you, you can move forward, you can take control. I know, I have.

That doesn’t mean I have everything sorted by the way, we are all on a journey, I am on the same journey as you. What I do know is that I am always moving forward and living in the moment. We never ‘know’ everything there is to know in this life…if we did, where would be the fun in that?

Remember, there is only one person you can change and that is YOU.

I am going to re-quote the saying that is on the home page of this site, Anger (or bitterness or resentment) is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.

Banish anger, bitterness and resentment from your life and feel the load lighten immediately. Whoever you have that resentment towards probably doesn’t even realise (or care) that you feel that way anyway. So what use is there in hanging on to it?

(In writing this I have actually just realised that I was holding on to some resentment that has no place in my life. Thank you to you if your situation encouraged me to write this as you have actually helped me. In helping me you will have helped yourself.)

So, to all of those who desire to move forward and start putting anger, resentment and bitterness behind them, I wish you the very best with all my heart.

Best wishes

Alastair

Good Day or Bad Day – it’s Your Choice…

Do you have good and bad days?

Better question:

  • Who decides whether you have a good day or not?

Is it luck…. or fate?

I think it was one of the terminator films with Arnold Schwartzenegger in it that had the quote, ‘There is no fate but what we make.’

How true do you know that statement to be? If you know it to be true, it will be true; it really is as simple as that.

Who is in Control?

Red sky in the morning...?

Red sky in the morning…?

You may be thinking that there is no way you can get out of a bad situation or effect the outcome of your life. Be assured there is and it’s not as difficult as you may think!

We are all creating in our lives, all the time. It just depends on if you are creating positive or negative things.

I recently went on the first Life Design Getaway and that is exactly what we learnt. I even saw things in my past that I had designed on purpose but I didn’t realise I was doing it. How cool is that! I will write up the day we had in the near future so that you can see exactly how good it really is when you find out exactly what you need to do to transform your life. My designs are already coming true!

Is your glass half full or half empty? It can be full if you desire it to be!

Is your glass half full or half empty? It can be full if you desire it to be!

Andy Shaw spent a long time during and after a meltdown in his business life finding out what had changed from the days when everything he touched turned to gold. By looking in depth into the self improvement and self help arena he found out how to use the power that is within all of us to influence things around us. He decided to write a book to share what he discovered. In fact he wrote two, one would just not have been right!

Having met Andy and spent some time late at night in the bar with him, I can tell you that he is a really nice guy who genuinely wants to help the world by enabling people to fulfil their potential.

It has made a big difference to how I ‘run’ my life and means that I no longer have any anxiety, fear or worry. Things from the past no longer have a hold over me and I have an armoury of techniques ready to deal with the times when my ego tries to take control back. (Not sure what your ego is trying to do, see more here.)

To get a taste of what it is like to have a bug free mind and get signed up for a free Starter Kit.

Remember:

  • What is, is, the past has no hold over you unless you let it.
  • You can choose to be happy right now.
  • You can choose to take control of your life today.
  • Always find the positive in everything you do and say.

More on this kind of thing in my Reflections on Peace

If you have any questions about this or any other topics on this website I would welcome them. Likewise, if you have comments that would help those who may be reading this then please also leave those, you may know that when you give to the universe, you receive back with interest, God knows its true!

Best wishes to you all…

Alastair

First Aid!

First Aid at the HR Dept

Great Day Great People

It is always a pleasure to meet new people and hear about them and their lives. Today was no exception!

Ivor Duncan taught us all about how to administer first aid in the work place should that ever be required. We learnt how to bandage and carry out CPR and also that we have to shout for help a lot!

Great location, great atmosphere and lots learnt.

Thanks to everyone who gave their input today.

Best wishes

Alastair

Too Many Thoughts?

Lots Going on in Your Head?

Is it noisy in there?

Sometimes when going through life, and even when moving around doing day-to-day stuff, let alone when sitting still, there are times when our thoughts can crowd in on us and make things hard work!

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Find out if you have a crowded mind… Think of the best thing that has ever happened to you and then close your eyes and try to just think about that one thing. As you are thinking about it concentrate hard.

How long did you manage? Sometimes it might be as little as 2-3 seconds.

It doesn’t have to be like that. That is your ego trying to hold you back. You can take control if desire to.

One of the things that Andy Shaw guides you through in Creating a Bug Free Mind Chapter 2 is a technique on exactly how you can practise taking control of your mind. This is the first and most important step in taking back control so that you don’t have those thoughts crowding in.

I can tell you from personal experience that I used to have thoughts coming in all the time. Now I can choose to let those thoughts into my mind or not as I please. Until you experience the power of doing this it is hard to imagine what effect it has on you. Serenity and peace are the two words I would use I think.DSC00587

If you would like to know more then feel free to comment below and if you have advice for those with crowded minds then also get in touch.

To peace if you desire it…

Alastair

To Study or Not to Study?

Are you studying now?

My middle son is very close to his A levels right now and, as a caring parent I was thinking how  can I best get him to fulfil his potential.

Like my parents before me I imagine, there is a balance between trying too hard and letting our children do what they have to. Sometimes all we can do is provide support, they are the ones who have to figure it out.

One thing that happens, as he is very much into his music, is that he would rather be playing with the band or, as he is blessed with a lovely girlfriend, be having a great time with her. Could some of this time be spent more profitably right now getting on with some revision? Only he can decide!

In a recent conversation about this with my ex, when I commented on the above, she made this comment, was I being to concerned about excessive happiness?

Best wishes to all those about to do their exams, may you get the results you deserve based on the effort you have put in!

To your success!

Alastair

UPDATE – 12.05.13

Joe, our oldest son has just informed us that he has got 80% in one of his modules, well done Joe!

The interesting thing was that he was doing the write up while we were on holiday in Chertsey a while back doing Chessington, Thorpe Park and Legoland all in one week.

Another interesting thing was that Joe did not enjoy doing the write up at all!!!

Just goes to show that if you choose to do something well you can. Now you just need to know how to design it that way.

Karen J Stokes, Choose the View that Benefits YOU!

Hi

The other day I had the pleasure of meeting Karen again after not having seen her for quite a while.

Karen was the first person to tell me that I can choose to be happy, really happy, no matter what the situation is. If there is an event in your life then there will be an outcome to that event. It is your reaction that determines that outcome. Choose to be happy and guess what, you are!

Karen was giving a presentation at the Bath Positive Living Group about Mind Mastery.

As ever Karen put across her message with care and consideration for those present and it was really great to get even more insight into how our minds can work for and against us without us even knowing it if we are not careful.

You can find out more about Karen and what she does by following this link.

Best wishes

Alastair