Category Archives: Thought for the day

Small things that can make all the difference..

Things may not appear to be what they are and do you love what you do?

Things may not appear to be what they are…

As I sit here writing this I am in front of a warm log fire and it is snowing outside. How blessed are we that can do that.

Storm

As the storm rages on outside we sit comfortably inside our bubbles of existence separated and sometimes completely unaware of those nearby who are not so fortunate.

Ben, who is just fourteen has come running downstairs on this Sunday morning excited to see that it is snowing outside. How different it would be if he was out on the street somewhere wondering where his next hot meal was going to come from?

Fire

As the fire crackles in front of me and the flames lick upwards consuming the wood, (that commodity that is one of the few things that warms you twice), I realise that the storm that rages outside means I have to turn the fire down as the strong wind is making it draw more than usual.

What other things in our lives may appear to be a storm that are actually helping us I wonder?

What are you experiencing?

What are you experiencing right now that you are seeing as a trial that actually, if you stand back a bit and take a sideways look at, could be something that you can take advantage of in a way that you haven’t considered before and that will help you instead of hinder you?

Do you love what you do?

Is what you are doing in life really what you want to do? Is the job you have, what you do to, ‘make a living’ what you love to do?

Stop

Stop and think for just a moment and you will know.

If it isn’t and let’s face it, if you love what you do, you will never do a days work in your life, you will know straight away.

Question

The question then is what are you going to do about it? Are you just going to keep doing the same things over and over and expect something to change?

That, I think it was Einstein referred to, as madness!

Sit quietly and ask yourself, what is it that I love to do and if money were not an issue I would just do as much of the time as possible?

Spend some time on this as what you first think of may only be part of the story.

What next?

What you do next is up to you. Doing what you love can make you enough or even, more than enough, money if you do it in the right way. Decide on what you are going to do and write down clearly and without ambiguity exactly what it is that you desire to do in your life and if you have a true burning desire to do that then you will achieve it.

There are processes that enable you to do this with ease. Saltori is one of them.

Would you like me to write more on this? Let me know and I will happily do so.

If you like my facebook page then you will be able to easily see what is going on easily and you can contact me there as well if you would like to.

Best wishes

Alastair

Thoughts crashing in!

Do you get thoughts crashing into your mind?

When I talk to people about getting the best out of life, one of the biggest issues that often comes up is the desire to just be able to sit quietly and chill out.

What do I mean by that?

If you manage to stop for a minute in your busy stressful day and try and relax, suddenly all the things you need to do or sort out start popping into your mind. Or it might be situations in life that upset you or things that aren’t going how you would like them to.

Do you get that?

Try sitting still for a couple of minutes and see what happens.

I used to get that, but now I don’t. I trained myself to control those thoughts so that stress, worry and anxiety are a thing of the past.

I am NOT special, I am just like you. Many of the people I have introduced Saltori Structured Thinking to have mastered this and if you can read or listen to an audio book then you can do this to!

It’s about ridding your mind of the bugs, like computer viruses, that live there.

How do I start taking back control?

The very first part of the process is to think of something in your life that you really enjoyed and just think about that and only that for 15 seconds.

Most people don’t manage more than a few seconds the first time, but with practice you will be able to do it.

Now when a thought that you don’t like pops into your head choose to think about the happy thought like you did just now.

It could be a holiday you went on, even just a good time you had with friends, anything that lifts you and enables you to choose happiness. You will be amazed at the power this gives you and it’s only the start of the process!

Try it for a while and see how you get on or get more information about the system by downloading the first five chapters free here.

I would love to hear your comments about how you get on, enter them below.

The Saltori Structured Thinking System gives you back the ability to control those thoughts and in doing so it enables you to rid your mind of the negative influence those thoughts have. It also provides an easy process for creating goals in life and then seeing them through.

There is a starter kit available or a video introduction  if you prefer.

Don’t Follow the Dog!

What dog?

A few years ago I watched a video of that exponent of the power of now, Ekhart Tolle. He realised just how powerful NOW is, so much so that he wrote a book with that title, The Power of Now.

The main point is – there….is….only….NOW.

Think about that for a second.

In fact what is a second?

It is really just a moment in time, one sixtieth of a minute, and, as it was passing did you notice that, oops, it’s still now?

So if now is all there is, what does that make the past and the future?

Well my understanding is that the past is just there for us to learn from. It is NOT to haunt us and make us feel bad.

The Future

The future is just that, the future, and when it arrives it will also be now! Can you remember the film that has the quote “There is no fate but what we make?” Even if you haven’t been told that that is how it is, maybe it is time that you thought about that.

The Past

If something is in the past we can’t change it. So why do we beat ourselves up about those things?

Someone once said something like, if something is annoying you and you can change it, then do so. If you can’t change it then change your attitude.

Notice that in both cases you made the choice to change, nobody else. The issue here, as ever, is that choice is the problem and the solution. Now you know you have a choice you can start to make one that suits you.

When you accept that the past cannot be changed, and does not have a hold over you, you free yourself from that burden and can move forward.

So move forward with love, leaving those things that have troubled you in the past, the lessons having been learnt.

Best wishes and feel free to comment to start a conversation. Share your experiences here as well to help others.

Alastair

PS – Oh yes, the dog! Well the dog was mentioned in the video. Ekhart was talking about the way that when we take the time to be quiet, some times we have thoughts that crowd in on our peace and contentment. I have written about too many thoughts going around in our heads but the dog didn’t figure!

It is possible to build our mental muscles to enable us to control these thoughts and get back control of those thoughts. It is the peace that having a quiet mind brings that is the end game here.

Picture yourself sitting on a park bench looking out across a path just watching the world go by. Here comes the dog. The dog is like a thought that pops into your head. Your choice is whether you get up off the bench and follow the dog as it walks by or if you sit still and let the dog walk away and release that thought and don’t follow it.

If you choose to let those thoughts go then you you can experience peace.

I trust that you will find that peace if it is your desire to do so.

More Reflections on Peace here.

Things have been busy – in a good way!

Some things have to take second place

What are you thinking?

Today, after a bit of a break due to us re-branding at work and still needing to run the business (www.chronologic.co.uk), I haven’t been on here much as you can see, but here is something that caught my eye.

Neil Donald Walsh is someone that I have been introduced to who has some very interesting incites into how this reality may work. He does a thought for the day and below is one of his that I agree with totally.

Is it your experience? If not have a look at how reading this makes you feel, look at those feelings and ask yourself, if I am not in control of how I feel then who is?

Trust me, when you realise that it really is you who decides how you feel about anything, you can really start to look at life differently.

It may seem that you cannot control exterior circumstances, but you can always control interior ones.

Your internal world — the reality that you encounter within your mind and emotions — is a world that you and only you control and create.
 
How you experience everything is up to you. Your reactions need not be automatic or similar to ones you have had before.

Best wishes

Alastair

Unconditional Love and Anger

What Anger?

The other day I was speaking to someone who was having issues with negativity. I have written on this before, check out this page, however, there is something that came out in the conversation that I thought I would share.

Unconditional Love – a Cure for Anger?

If I am present, that is, aware of what is going on and not just running on automatic, as we sometimes can be, and I experience negativity that could lead to anger I remember that there is something I can do.

I can remember that if I approach every situation from the view point of unconditional love, then there is no room for anger. Do you realise how powerful that is?

So, next time you feel your ‘gander’ rising, become present and remember that you are the one who chooses how you feel and if you choose to react from that place within us that is unconditional love, then you can let the negativity go straight through you and have no effect  on you.

Just one last thing, if you know that you have reacted to negativity badly then put it right as soon as you can, don’t let it fester. Remember that resentment is very damaging. Lots on Resentment here.

If you find yourself experiencing the same negative things repeatedly have a look here.

Give yourself freedom to feel love and peace, it is yours for the taking.

Best wishes

Alastair

Resentment – any benefit?

Resentment

Something for nothing?

Time for another look at some of the things that getting a bug free mind can help with.

Those of you who know me will be aware that a while ago a friend of mine, Rebecca, was kind enough to introduce me to a set of books that have literally changed the way I see things in terms of how much control we have over our existence.

A Big Claim

That may sound like a big claim and it is, it also happens to be true. Things changed for me that day and they are still changing now.

Change?

Some people are afraid of change and that can be something that holds them back big time! My thoughts on that are, be open minded and don’t judge, just observe. Remember, Judgment is weakness, observation is power.

Who is Andy Shaw?

The guy who wrote the books is called Andy Shaw and I have had the pleasure of spending some time with him face-to-face without any distractions, really getting to the bottom of this process and understanding how it works.

I am on my sixth read through of the first book of the series, Creating a Bug Free Mind, and, as Andy says, there are things that you read on later read throughs that you never heard the first, second or subsequent times through. That is how powerful your ego is at trying to hold you back.

What is your Ego and How do you relate to it?

One of the big things I have discovered going through this process is that your ego is actually trying to hold you back. You don’t necessarily know this at all right now and you may not even recognise that it could be an issue for you, just go with it for now and don’t judge.

Your ego can be that doubting voice your hear in your head whenever you think about doing something maybe slightly different to normal. Something that might actually be good for you but is just a bit different, or may be very different!

Anyway, if you want to find out more about the bug free mind process you can check this page out. Andy has various offers on from time to time for people who are interested in taking control of their lives and making a difference for themselves and their families and friends.

Back to the reason for this post…

Not sure where all that came from as I was really going to write about resentment today.

The other day I had the pleasure of talking to a friend who I met on one of the days that I spent with Andy Shaw. She is someone else who is becoming bug free. We were talking about the thought that it isn’t always an easy process, that is, unless you decide it is going to be. (That is something that you can learn, things don’t have to be hard or difficult in this life if you choose for them not to be. That’s a bit deep maybe, stick with it though, it will  pay dividends!)

I mentioned that I was on another read through and that I had just read chapter 12 again, ‘Now That’s Painful’, and that there is someone I know who could really do with understanding the point made in this chapter. This is someone who appears to have difficulties letting go of things. She is a very giving person and yet it appears thinks she has very little worth; she is the one who always remembers anniversaries and birthdays and things like that. This also doesn’t take into account all the time she gives to people and organisations that she supports.

“You must write about this…”

My friend encouraged my to write about this subject during our conversation. It has been lovely when people have let me know that the things that have been written here have helped them. The love that is flowing because of this website and the interactions on it, and because of it, is wonderful. To know that together we are helping is all that matters really. That after all, is why I do this, to help people.

Pain?

Andy asks the question, do you think you are adding to your pain? He then asks how we answered. He takes us through how living in the present while choosing to understand how our life is created by us or our ego (consciously or unconsciously) and how this effects things for us. This, if we choose to understand it, is something that we can control.

What is the point in talking about resentment?

The point I would like to get across here is that resentment is one of those things, like fear and worry, that we have a choice about and it can greatly benefit us if we learn to let go of it.

After all, what is the benefit of hanging on to resentment? It only perpetuates the pain, where is the benefit in that?

Second point – a new one on me!

Now, the second point is this, and I have only just understood this for myself.

There are two ways we can ‘deal’ with resentment, firstly we can push it away. That is hide it, put it in a box somewhere in our mind and lock the box and pretend it isn’t there.

What we don’t know is that its presence is still being felt by us even if we don’t think it can be, now that we have locked it away. It continues to burrow away even if we don’t realise it. And this may be something that you recognise – suddenly the old resentment escapes from the box and it is there, full on again, creating pain in our lives.

Yes, I realised this time through that I did indeed have resentment that I had hidden, now for the powerful bit…

Powerful bit!

The second way we can deal with resentment is, knowing that it has no benefit for us, look at is closely and shine the light of understanding on it. It will then dissolve itself.

Once it has dissolved it is gone forever, it cannot return.

First time?

If you have never done this before it may seem strange and you might think it will be difficult. It doesn’t have to be.

Andy advises, and I concur, don’t fight it, just relax. Go with it slowly and see resentment for what it is, worthless. Start small if you need to and work up to the bigger resentments when you are ready. Starting small lets you practise and build up your emotional strength.

Realisation

Once you realise that things you resent are not as big as you thought they were, you will be able to move forward and let them go, after all they don’t hold any value for you.

I trust that this information has been useful and, if you are in need of dumping some resentment, then it will have helped.

Best wishes

Alastair

The Why Question

Why Oh Why Oh Why Do These Things Keep Happening To Me?

Do you find yourself asking yourself this sometimes, maybe more often than you really want to?

Can you see through the fog?

Can you see through the fog?

Maybe ‘Why’ isn’t really the right question…

Instead of asking yourself why, how about turning it around and asking ‘What am I going to choose?’

Instead of trying to figure out what is going on just STOP IT. Focus on where you desire to be, and let your dominant thought become your reality. There is only direction you should be looking and that is forwards. What is behind you is only there to benefit you if there is a lesson to learn from it. If you continuously dwell on the whys in this life the whys will just become a greater and greater part of your experience.

If you keep coming across the same why question all the time you have missed something somewhere and you haven’t learnt the lesson yet. Again, STOP, if you had learnt the lesson you wouldn’t be getting the same why questions all the time.

Stop and listen to your feelings to see where to turn, take the turn, learn from the past but don’t let it control you, it is just the past.

I am not sure why I had to write this today but I have just had a great weekend and I know that won’t have been the case for everyone, if this is for you, or someone you know, then you will know who you are.

Best wishes

Alastair

 

What is a Dimple Day?

A month goes by…

Well, how did that happen, a month went by and I didn’t get on here and share anything.

The one reason that mainly explains this is that my business is booming, all part of the plan of course so that’s good.

Back to the subject…

A Dimple Day

We have a sign that Julie bought for me that hangs in our kitchen, it says.

Today is a goodToday is a good day day

It is one of those hanging signs with a word on each of the metal plates that make it up.

Our youngest son sometimes has been known to be grumpy in the mornings about having to have breakfast and get ready for school and the usual things boys get grumpy about.

I decided one morning that I was going to help him understand that he didn’t have to feel like that if he didn’t want to.

So, I turned the saying, Today is a good day, into Today is a dimple day for a joke. It really worked!

Now, to explain that, Julie and I have dimples, I think it’s genetic therefore, so do our sons.

In thinking about how you would know whether it is a good day or not you could measure that by how much you smile.

Well, when we smile in this house dimples appear!

Therefore if Today is a dimple day, guess what, we are smiling and life is good.

Remember, smile at least five times a day for no reason, it really does lift your mood.

Pass this on if you agree!

Best wishes

Alastair

Insidious Negativity

Say what?

Negativity:

Storm Approaching?

Storm approaching?

I am sure you have come across this before. When you are talking to others or listening to others talking there are comments made that are not positive or even neutral.

Things that put a person down or bring old hurts up from the past and generally don’t make the day better.

This can be our thoughts as well though, things that we think about that don’t help or move things forward are included here.

Insidious:

Sinister, treacherous, crafty, stealthy, these are just some of the synonyms for insidious.

Why Insidious Negativity is my subject today

I have been on the receiving end of some of this over the years and I have learnt, through reading and listening to various publications and audio books that it is possible to side step negativity to stop it effecting how I am feeling. (The coolest thought on this is to do with how the universe has been created and what that means at a quantum level but that will have to wait for another day!)

Why would you want to sidestep negativity?

I have also learnt that you attract to you those things that are your dominant thought. This means that if your dominant thought is negative, guess what, you will get, more negativity.

You can prove this to yourself if you want to. Imagine walking into a room full of people with a grumpy and unhappy face on, how different would the reaction of those people be to you if you were smiling instead? Think about it as if you were someone in the room and you saw yourself walk in. Grumpy person verses happy person, I wonder how you would react?

Therefore, if you are in a negative environment or talking people down behind their backs or generally not being kind about something or someone then you are attracting more of that to you. By learning to side step negativity we can reduce its damaging effects on us.

One trick I have learnt when people are talking to me about someone and being negative is to think of something positive or good that that person has done and bring the conversation around to that. The effect this has is that the person who is being negative stops, as they soon learn, consciously or unconsciously that you are going to find something nice to say about the person they are bitching about!

I am getting off topic here, let’s get back on track

When people talk to each other there are times when the phrases that they use are negative instead of neutral or positive. We all use this way of talking from time to time and, although I am getting better at not doing so, I still slip from time to time and react too quickly and don’t fully engage my brain before opening my mouth!

How do you feel about negativity?

I trust that you know that you can choose how you feel in any circumstance. If that isn’t your reality maybe you could take a moment to consider this, it really is so. A friend of mine is sometimes upset or angry about something and I will gently remind them of this fact and they momentarily get cross with me and then we have a laugh and they normally say, ‘and yes, I am choosing to be angry about this’. That is of course, their choice. The point is, if you are choosing to be angry or upset about something you can choose not to be as well. You really are in control. It is your choice – so choose wisely!

The Negativity Wind

Let’s imagine that we are walking along and that negativity is like the wind.

If there isn’t much or none at all then walking is easy (feeling happy about things is easy to achieve).

If however the wind is up and we are having to push hard against the wind to move forward (having to work hard to consciously choose to be happy in a storm of negativity), its just harder than it needs to be!

Breaking Point

What kind of wind is in your sails?

What kind of wind is in your sails?

Yes, we can all reach this point if we are pushed hard enough.

This is what happened to me the other day and it was as if I was pushing hard against the wind of negativity and suddenly from nowhere, and you will have to excuse my sailing metaphor here, a large sail attached to me was hoisted up the mast and caught the wind full on.

I couldn’t take it any more, I didn’t have the strength to push against the wind and it pushed me backwards very quickly into reacting badly.

Nothing really bad I hasten to add, just raised voices for a few seconds, but still, unnecessary negativity that didn’t benefit the world.

Eye Opener

That is exactly what it was, an eye opener, and therefore I am grateful it happened.

It let me see once again that I truly can choose how I feel as, once I had regained control I could see exactly what had happened and next time, if there is a next time, I will be more aware of what is going on and I will watch to see if that sail is about to be hoisted or better still, I will get out of the wind and stay cosy warm.

One last thing…

Not sure exactly how to put this but I also saw that day a maturity and level of kindness and love before unseen in someone that was wonderfully refreshing and humbling. You know who you are, and my love goes out to you, thank you again.

Are you sad?

Sadness, what are you choosing?

The link below takes you to a Facebook post that explains more eloquently than I could how bringing joy to others is the route to being joyful ourselves. It is by Dr Wayne Dyer.

I trust that if this is the message you were meant to hear today you will follow the link and find something useful.

https://www.facebook.com/drwaynedyer/posts/10152039706056030

A taster…

“I have found that most of the times that I am engrossed in sadness due to a problem it is because of something that someone else has said or done, or failed to do. So this is the “problem.” I am sad because of the actions or inactions of others. Now, of course, this is an illusion; something that I have created in my thoughts. It is in my mind that I am experiencing the “problem.” So, what is the solution? It is always so simple that I often conk myself on the head for not realizing sooner.”

In the post he talks about where we can go from here…

Best wishes

Alastair