Monthly Archives: June 2013

Back in the USA

uAttend International Summit

Quick Update

I am currently about to nip off to the gym to work off some of the lovely food we have been enjoying here at the summit.

uAttend shows you what we are meeting about and things are really looking exciting with the plans that we are discussing for the system, more to follow on that is due course over on the uAttend site, Time and Attendance has never been so exciting!

If you want a glimpse of where I am check this out!

La Costa

The resort where I am staying.

Time for a Baggage Clear Out?

Who Needs Baggage?

Where to Start… My take on Chapter 4 of ABFM, Lightening the Load

Worry Free

Choose to be happy now, it really is your choice.

Below are some of my thoughts on the process of getting to be Bug Free! I urge you to visit A Bug Free Mind and read the first five chapters free. It really will change your life, it did for me!

I can only touch the surface here, follow the books and you will really know what it is to be truly happy and worry free.

You probably don’t ‘believe’ it is possible to be worry free. After all, that’s not possible is it? Well, you really can choose to be worry free. I have, is it time that you did too? It is the greatest gift I have ever been given!

Why Worry?

In order to clear out the baggage you first need to get control of your mind. If you don’t then the junk just keeps coming back.

What does that mean? It means that if you are sitting in a quiet room and your mind is full of thoughts and you can’t control them, you are not in control.

I wrote something on this here. Once you get control then it’s time to get rid of some of that baggage, after all, why would you want to be carrying it around?

There are things in life that are very traumatic and they can be very destructive if they are not dealt with. There are things that you probably look back on and wish they hadn’t happened. And what of the future, do you worry about that? Most people do it has to be said.

Can you change the past?

If something happened in the past there is nothing you can do about it, NOTHING. It happened, it just is. As it ‘just is’ what is the point in worrying about it now? What possible benefit can there be? There is just NOW.

Let the sun set on your past... it is not relevant to today except as a lesson that has been learnt.

Let the sun set on your past… it is not relevant to today except as a lesson that has been learnt.

So are you ready to take back control? How did you end up reading this? Is the time right for you to put some stuff behind you and move on.

If you are in that place right now I would love you to know that we are all rooting for you, you can move forward, you can take control. I know, I have.

That doesn’t mean I have everything sorted by the way, we are all on a journey, I am on the same journey as you. What I do know is that I am always moving forward and living in the moment. We never ‘know’ everything there is to know in this life…if we did, where would be the fun in that?

Remember, there is only one person you can change and that is YOU.

I am going to re-quote the saying Julie told me that is on the home page of this site, Anger (or bitterness or resentment) is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.

Banish anger, bitterness and resentment from your life and feel the load lighten immediately. Whoever you have that resentment towards probably doesn’t even realise (or care) that you feel that way anyway. So what use is there in hanging on to it?

(In writing this I have actually just realised that I was holding on to some resentment that has no place in my life. Thank you to you if your situation encouraged me to write this as you have actually helped me. In helping me you will have helped yourself.)

So, to all of those who desire to move forward and start putting anger, resentment and bitterness behind them, I wish you the very best with all my heart.

Best wishes

Alastair

Quality Time

What is Quality Time?

Yesterday Evening

Someone once told me that, ‘Quality time, is time you can’t have again’. Not sure if it was his own maxim or a quote from someone else, but I know one thing, he was right!

The Compton Inn

The Compton Inn

Yesterday evening I was lucky enough to share a lovely meal at the Compton Inn with that very person (our wives were with us as well).

We share a meal from time to time and visit different restaurants depending on who is choosing. They are sometimes return visits and sometimes new places. Last night was a return visit.

Conversation

As we ate, the conversation moved backwards and forwards through time and space in many different directions as it is wont to do.

As we have children of similar ages they often turn up in the conversation thread. Last night was no exception, and, as most of them are having exams or have just finished them, we commiserated with each other on how we would love our children to be able to learn from our experience. I suspect this is a desire of many of those of us who are blessed with children?

I use the word ‘blessed’ there with my tongue a little in my cheek, as we all know that although children can bring enormous amounts of joy into our lives, they can also be a challenge at times.

Share your thoughts on this using the comments below if you like. If you don’t want your comment published and just wish to add something privately just say so in your comment.

Past, Present and Future

The midsts of time...

The midsts of time…

I love the way that conversation can move so quickly through time. One minute talking about something that is due to happen in the future, like holidays, and then reminiscing about times when we worked together in the distant past.

My problem is that I can talk and talk (and talk). Luckily for me, my wife and friends are very kind and, apart from the odd kick under the table from Julie, they let me prattle on and on. I do catch myself doing it sometimes and try to shut up for a bit to give others a chance, but I often slip back into talk mode inadvertently.

Ratios

There is a saying that says that, as you have two ears and one mouth, you should use them in that ratio. I have also heard it extended to, two ears, two eyes and a mouth. My long suffering friends may be thinking I should take my own council here!

So, quality time was had and we enjoyed another lovely evening. If you haven’t had an evening out with friends recently maybe now is the time to invite them out, or, if your circumstances dictate, just invite them round for chat, you don’t have to go out and spend a lot to have quality time in your life.

Some would say, me included, that actually, some of the best time spent with family and friends is when no money has been spent at all.

Plan in some quality time today! Although time is an illusion, you will run out eventually in this lifetime, why wait?

Best wishes

Alastair