Monthly Archives: May 2013

Do ‘you’ have any fears?


Feeling Helpless?

Feeling Helpless?

Of all the liars in the world, sometimes the worst are your own fears.

Rudyard Kipling said that and he was right.

We don’t have to fear anything is we can only realise that fear is just an illusion.

The Bug Free response is:





Look into your fears and see them for what they really are, lies told to you by your ego. You are in control and can deal with anything. You just need to ‘know’ that you can.

Have a great holiday weekend without any fear everyone.

Best wishes





Just heard this in chapter ten, as I am on another listen through, it is so true that you pick up something new every time you listen, must be to do with the more control we get over that ego the more present we are!


Serenity comes when you trade expectation for acceptance.

How true is that? It is as true for you as it is (if you see what I mean!).

Any thoughts on that one, let me know…

Best wishes


The last couple of days…

Busy times (for the right reasons!)

The week started well and just got better.

We are getting referrals at work from employees moving from one employer to Bristol Airportanother and they recommend our time and attendance systems when they get to their new place of work, keep um coming!

Yesterday was a mixture of great meetings and lots of networking and meeting old friends along the way, happy times. A great time was had at Bristol Airport at the Barclays networking event.

West Quay Shopping Centre

West Quay Shopping Centre

Today was a visit to finish off a big contract and it was great to see the people down there in Southampton reaping the rewards of the great Focus system. West Quay shopping centre is a great place to visit, the food choices alone are worth going for!


The day culminated in an in depth session working out the tricky automation of some employee hours for employees who work in the docks, still some work to do here but progress is being made!

Have a great rest of the week everyone.

Best wishes


Good Day or Bad Day – it’s Your Choice…

Do you have good and bad days?

Better question:

  • Who decides whether you have a good day or not?

Is it luck…. or fate?

I think it was one of the terminator films with Arnold Schwartzenegger in it that had the quote, ‘There is no fate but what we make.’

How true do you know that statement to be? If you know it to be true, it will be true; it really is as simple as that.

Who is in Control?

Red sky in the morning...?

Red sky in the morning…?

You may be thinking that there is no way you can get out of a bad situation or effect the outcome of your life. Be assured there is and it’s not as difficult as you may think!

We are all creating in our lives, all the time. It just depends on if you are creating positive or negative things.

I recently went on the first Life Design Getaway and that is exactly what we learnt. I even saw things in my past that I had designed on purpose but I didn’t realise I was doing it. How cool is that! I will write up the day we had in the near future so that you can see exactly how good it really is when you find out exactly what you need to do to transform your life. My designs are already coming true!

Is your glass half full or half empty? It can be full if you desire it to be!

Is your glass half full or half empty? It can be full if you desire it to be!

Andy Shaw spent a long time during and after a meltdown in his business life finding out what had changed from the days when everything he touched turned to gold. By looking in depth into the self improvement and self help arena he found out how to use the power that is within all of us to influence things around us. He decided to write a book to share what he discovered. In fact he wrote two, one would just not have been right!

Having met Andy and spent some time late at night in the bar with him, I can tell you that he is a really nice guy who genuinely wants to help the world by enabling people to fulfil their potential.

It has made a big difference to how I ‘run’ my life and means that I no longer have any anxiety, fear or worry. Things from the past no longer have a hold over me and I have an armoury of techniques ready to deal with the times when my ego tries to take control back. (Not sure what your ego is trying to do, see more here.)

To get a taste of what it is like to have a bug free mind and get signed up for a free Starter Kit.


  • What is, is, the past has no hold over you unless you let it.
  • You can choose to be happy right now.
  • You can choose to take control of your life today.
  • Always find the positive in everything you do and say.

More on this kind of thing in my Reflections on Peace

If you have any questions about this or any other topics on this website I would welcome them. Likewise, if you have comments that would help those who may be reading this then please also leave those, you may know that when you give to the universe, you receive back with interest, God knows its true!

Best wishes to you all…


First Aid!

First Aid at the HR Dept

Great Day Great People

It is always a pleasure to meet new people and hear about them and their lives. Today was no exception!

Ivor Duncan taught us all about how to administer first aid in the work place should that ever be required. We learnt how to bandage and carry out CPR and also that we have to shout for help a lot!

Great location, great atmosphere and lots learnt.

Thanks to everyone who gave their input today.

Best wishes


Legal Stuff

What I write on this website is just my perspective on what I have done and where I have reached in the never ending journey that is life.

I desired to share that with people knowing that some, I would like to say all, may benefit.

Some will agree and some will disagree, that is their choice and they can only live their truth.

If you feel at all uncomfortable or disagree strongly with things I have written then please observe what those feelings are telling you about where you are in your journey right now. Above all, do not judge. Remember, observation is power, judgement is weakness.

There may be links on this website that indicate to the location the link points to that that visitor came via this website. Some of those links and any sales that come from them may earn me a commission of some kind. If you would like to visit sites that I have links to without the tracking please message me and I will give you the untagged link with pleasure, in fact, most of the time by hovering over it you should be able to work out what there is to use in the link that will get you to where you want to go without the recipient knowing I sent you. My motives in writing on this site are the highest I have available to me though so if you can use the links provided that would be great as it will enable me to do more and more good and to help more and more people.

Best wishes


Another Great Birthday

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Birthday Fun on a Day Off with Julie

Good Times…


A shadowy kiss

Share the love folks…

The day started early as I had taken the day off but there was a networking group that I belong to that I wanted to go to as there was going to be a handing out of cheques for charity, as that is a big part of why What’s Right exists! It is great to be a part of a group that wants to grow its collective business in order to give some of it away!

We dropped our little boy off with his grandma early as she was kind enough to offer to take him to school for us so that we could get to the event in time. I say we, Julie and I had decided we were going to have a day out together for my birthday.

We arrived at the event just in time but, as we had had a late night the night before when I was testing terminals that needed to go out urgently the next day, Julie stayed in the car and snoozed.

The meeting was great and some of the heart warming stories that the representatives from the three charities present told us, made us very aware that the movement of money we are enabling into these charities is really making a difference.

At the end of the meeting Rebecca Jenkins, who introduced me to ABFM came and met Julie for the first time which was great.

We then set off on our special day together.


We started with a slap up breakfast at…. wait for it…. IKEA!!!! Yes, I really know how to enjoy myself!


I do like shopping so I didn’t have a problem as we walked around Ikea and bought a bed for our middle son, again, I really know how to enjoy myself don’t I! Nothing for me yet though except a trendy light for the underside of the kitchen cabinets I wanted to try ready for the new extension we are planning.

It’s a Squeeze

You need to picture a Vauxhall Zafira in the underground car park (good job, it was pouring with rain outside) with Julie and I trying to get the bed into it. The flat packs etc went in no problem but the mattress was another matter. It was quite big and this wasn’t going to be simple. This is the type of situation where knowing something is going to be easy to get your mind in the right place for a task isn’t going to hack it, small opening, big mattress, intention may be all there but some effort is going to be needed!

We pushed and shoved and laughed and squashed and twisted and laughed and pushed some more and yes, you guessed it more laughing, but we did it! Mattress, possibly not quite the shape is was meant to be, was in the car.

As I was sitting in the driving seat there was plenty of room for me, however, as the mattress was bent double and resting over the top of the only other seat left in the car behind me, Julie had to sit with here head leaning over to one side, again we laughed.

What people thought of us as they walked by while we were struggling away is anyone’s guess. Someone jokingly said that that was why they were having theirs delivered. I replied that next time maybe we would too. You are £35 better off she stated. I nearly shouted back that it is not about the money but thought better of it!

Financial Advice

Just so you really know that I know how to enjoy myself you should know that we stopped off for a ‘brief’ meeting with our IFA on the way back to sign a few things and that took quite a bit longer than we had anticipated but it meant it was all done and dusted and we could see it never getting done and we were just around the corner blah blah blah. Anyway, all sorted and that is the main thing.

More Shopping

As a treat for sorting out boring stuff on my birthday we then went shopping again and I nearly bought more shoes (ask me about that some time! Imelda Marcoss has got nothing on me!). I tried  on a lot of different pairs of jeans but none of them suited me. I think that all the cycling I have been doing has made my legs thinner and so I run the risk of looking like a sparrow if I wear the new skinny style of jeans that are about now.

Back Home

We then got back home (Julie having had a refreshing snooze in the car by the way) and fetched Ben from Grandma’s and put him to bed. We then had great fun extricating the bed from the car and getting it in the house. Our son and his friend were home so they helped and that made it a lot easier to get out than it was to get in!!!!

The Real Reason for this Post

While Julie was putting Ben to bed I called Spice Dunes, a local restaurant that we like going to, and booked a table. I had been thinking about how nice it is to go out for a meal in a quiet restaurant and the wonderful oppertunity it is to talk about things we don’t get to talk about in our normal day-to-day lives. Basically I was designing without even thinking about it. They said they had a table and I asked if possible could it be in a quiet corner.

And this is the bit where I wonder if when we get what we desire, can anyone else be effected negatively. I always work hard to make sure I am using the highest thought when I am desiging my life but even so…

As we arrived another couple were just leaving and we were then shown to our seats. We were the only people in the restaurant, there was no one else there!!!!!!!

Now that is a quiet corner if ever there was one!

We had the most lovely meal and talked about all sorts of things. The service was excellent and at the end of the meal I wanted to leave a tip. I only had large notes in my wallet so I asked them to change one even though I was paying on a credit card. Then I was thinking about what a lovely time we had had and the service had been excellent (lets face it they didn’t have much else to do did they!) so instead of using one of the notes they had given me I left a larger one. Given what we know about the laws of the universe I know that that is going to come back to me anyway again and again so why not share it out!

As we had such a lovely time we are going to make it a once a month treat for us to do together on our road of, getting the work-life balance sorted…

I leave you with the thought though,,, what do you think they thought I needed the change for…

Love to you all…



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Sing Your Heart Out!

Call that work?

How do you spend your days?

After a great day at what some might call work, I am sitting amongst 60 other men of various ages enjoying a wonderful male voice choir rehearsal.

imageMendip Male Voice Choir has been singing for many years but I have only been singing in it for about 20 months but I have already had the privilege of many concerts, to a wide range of audiences, including being part of the festival of voice and brass in the Royal Albert Hall.
On that occasion there were 1500 voices and the Corey and Grimethorpe brass bands, two of the best in the best country! It was a once in a lifetime experience!!
It just so happened that I ended up sitting right in the middle at the front of all the men right in the centre.image This meant when all the ladies stayed sitting down and we were singing the male voice only pieces I had the best view in the house!
The challenging thing was that we weren’t allowed any music, all 12 pieces had to be learnt by heart!!!!!
I am so grateful that I am able to join in with this type of thing, it brings joy to the heart…


Feel From the Heart

Beware of Thoughts Being Mistaken for Feelings

DSC02560Is that a bit deep?

When you are not sure which way to turn listen to your heart. Work at being able to do this.

Be silent with yourself and ignore your mind and listen to your heart for the feelings that will tell you exactly what you should do in a situation.

If you get an answer from your mind make sure it coincides with the one that your heart gives you, then you will know it is the right one to follow.

Your heart is the root of your wisdom, your mind only knows the past and will try and hold you back.

Not sure why I had to write this today, maybe you do?

To your knowing your hearts desire.